2023 Author: Melissa Kennedy | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-05-24 13:57
Some of them simply do not like children, others have resigned themselves to their sterility. But, as experience shows, they all live according to the same scenario - for their own pleasure. The girls from Evarush told about themselves and their acquaintances.
“My sister is the oldest. She is 44 now, commercial director of a large German company, her own house, a Mercedes with a driver, great things, every morning to the salon for styling and makeup before work, after work most often a restaurant with some important clients of the company, theaters (mostly fashion premieres and also with clients), exhibitions, mainly specialized for work. Rest 5-6 times a year at good resorts. She looks great, usually cheerful, very sociable, there are many men around (but a close one, not married to her). Outwardly, everything is very rosy, she tells us all that she is happy, but it happens that once a year at some holiday she will drink a little (she usually does not drink anything at all) and cry that she would be happy if, in addition to everything, she would wait for her daughter at home. She did not give birth to a child, tk. very abruptly went uphill on the career ladder, was afraid that the pregnancy and the child would not allow her to grow further, she had "grown up" to the commercial director by the age of 39, she said about the child for the first time at 40, but for some reason she did not want to give birth, with pleasure in takes my eldest daughter to visit him on the weekend. She has a glass of water to give her: she has a cook and an au pair at home around the clock, and there are many relatives, she says that she is happy that she has a sister and brother, that she is loved by someone and someone needs her."
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“My aunt (56 years old) has no children. Sometimes she regrets not having a child. And sometimes, as he looks around, there is no work in her provincial town, young people often drink, many young people will start a family, but they still live with their parents in a three-ruble flat - no money, scandals, quarrels with their mother-in-law, generations hate each other, hopeless hope … Not all live like that, of course, but very many. Then she says she is glad that she has no children."
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“I have a third marriage, I didn’t want children from any husband, I just don’t like children, and I treat husbands exactly, I can’t do anything about it. In my youth I worked with children, everything was fine, and then, as it snapped, it is very rare that any child on the street will like it, I force myself to love my niece. Health is all right, there were, unfortunately, abortions in my youth and every pregnancy I felt a terrible fear of my condition. Maybe my grandmother set my brains in this way, she had 5 children, she was a wonderful mother, grandmother, but nevertheless she heard several times from her "Why do they need children?" Maybe if I met a man whom I would love madly and who would himself push me to conceive the fruit of love, then I would decide, but no, just multiply is not for me. And recently my mother told me, and rightly so, that you don't give birth. Until now, I have not made a final conclusion whether I did the right thing or not. Perhaps I deprived myself of happiness, or perhaps I avoided suffering. But I don’t want to tempt fate and put experience on the child, how many mothers do not love their children, because this is not theirs”.
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“My great aunt is sterile, in addition, she also does not love children and never wanted them. Her husband loved her children and even tried to persuade her to adopt, but she was categorically against it. They lived together for 40 years. He died two years ago. When I gave birth to my daughter, he fiddled with her with such adoration. She still treats children with disgust. She only grieves that now she is left alone, because in fact her husband was busy with her like a capricious child."
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“My three friends are 40, have never been married, have no children. They live normally, everyone works in good positions, one is closely involved in the dacha, the other is repairing and traveling, the third is with oriental practices and all sorts of other hobbies. The last one 5 years ago had thoughts about "giving birth", but never gave birth. Nobody wants to get married AT ALL. I myself am divorced, 2 children, I wear like a savraska. My children are "daughters of the regiment", my friends love them and communicate with pleasure when they meet (we never drove children away from "adult" conversations, we always talked on equal terms). Sometimes I envy my friends, because they live for their own pleasure. They have time to take care of themselves, their health, I practically do not have this time. I can’t wait for the children to grow up, then I’ll get a dog and we’ll go with our friends to visit each other and relax together without looking back at the children.”
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“Very often“chronically lonely”people are, to put it mildly, peculiar. It is absolutely unambiguous that the majority are deep, terry egoists. My friend is almost 40 years old, she bathes in her loneliness, takes care of herself with her beloved, fosters her "bad character" (in her own words). He rents a studio, 10 minutes walk to work, the work is primitive, but calm and irresponsible. She has a very elderly lover who lives in another country, with whom she communicates two or three times a year for 15 years already. To be honest, I do not feel sorry for her at all”.
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