Everyone who has changed their place of residence at least once knows what difficulties are associated with the move. From time to time, many people have a desire to drop everything and rush wherever they look, but is it worth doing? As the French poet Edmond Arocourt said, "To leave is to die a little." There is something in this quote, because when we leave our native places, we leave a part of ourselves in them.
There are many who recall with horror the period spent in foreign lands. Much, of course, depends on the character - someone takes root everywhere, someone has a hard time making cardinal changes. And that's not bad. We will not discuss emigration, because within the country people move much more often. Consider the main reasons for the change of the city in three stories of our readers, whom the move has poisoned their existence.
Big and pure love
Quite a common reason to move. It seems that the power of unearthly feelings will allow you to level all possible hardships and hardships. Of course, it means a lot where and in what conditions you need to go. 25-year-old Inna felt almost like the wife of a Decembrist when she jumped on the train and left sunny Krasnodar for a village forgotten by God.
“My hometown is a real blooming paradise. But then he appeared on the horizon - Oleg. With loving eyes with pink glasses, I saw our joint future, the enthusiasm did not disappear even after the news that I would have to live with my mother-in-law, from whom my husband did not want to leave. I will not describe all the "delights" of living with this wonderful woman, many will understand without words. I will only say - do not repeat my sad experience. As they say - if you want to get a divorce, live with your relatives.
I found a job, tried to be at home less. A daughter was born, but my urgent requests to rent a separate apartment remained an empty phrase - despite a decent income, the faithful categorically did not want to "leave" my mother, who systematically shook my nerves. I ate her dumplings and pondered about lofty matters. I had nowhere to go, and there was nothing for me, in total - my angelic patience was enough for three years of the decree. I spent three long years on my mama's son, from whom I ran away without looking back."
Study, study and study again
Those who live in big cities don't really need to move to get an education. A large number of universities - choose what you want. But in a village or a small village there is especially nowhere to roam, and somehow you don't want to go to the cashier or the manicure master. 18-year-old Marina was ambitious, and she decided to conquer the metropolis. She went there, despite the parental exclamations a la "For whom will you leave us!" It turned out that it is good where we are not.
“Initially, I perceived the move as an exciting adventure, I was sure that there were continuous joys and great prospects ahead. Having quarreled with the guy, I decided to go to conquer the capital. But it turned out that no one was especially waiting for me there. Things were going well at the university, I made friends with my classmates, but all five years I only dreamed of when I would return home, which I did immediately after receiving my diploma.
The frantic pace of life in a huge city, the absence of relatives nearby and the need to rely only on themselves is not suitable for everyone. I want to see my loved ones often, and not once every six months, not to spend two hours every day on the subway. Moscow is not for everyone, you can laugh as much as you like, but my small homeland is dearer to me."
For many, a high-paying job is a rosy dream, but often sacrifices have to be made for it. A "warm" place does not always meet expectations, but we are not looking for easy ways. So thought 35-year-old Tanya, who, with a creak of her soul, packed her bags and left with her husband in a distant working village.
“The news about Andrey's transfer to another city sounded like a bolt from the blue. It was sad to part with Petersburg, but so be it. Fortunately, we lived separately, but my husband disappeared at work, and for a long time I could not find anything more or less decent. Dull landscapes, swamps and gray faces of people - this is how I remember the new town. Over time, good acquaintances appeared, but friends remained there, at home.
The feeling of "not at ease" did not disappear anywhere, although I tried to come to terms with the hard female share. For two years I tried to get used to the complexities of life and fiercely fought against the desire to go back. Fortunately, such an opportunity presented itself, and you had to see how I ran to the station. I am very glad that we managed to avoid a divorce, I don’t know how long it would have lasted for me, after all, the hinterland is not for me”.
Do not blame the universal injustice / parents / untimely landing on the pot for your troubles. In a new city, you will face a lot of difficulties - you need to rent a house, look for a job, establish a new circle of friends. Think well and if you're really not afraid - hit the road to a better life.
There are many happy stories when moving was a great decision and a ticket to a bright future. But we must weigh the pros and cons. You can be sure that in the new place your problems will disappear, but they are not - others will appear. But an emotional shake-up is provided, and it is always interesting to test yourself.